My son Michael and his National Championship Ring. Roll Tide!
There's a saying that being a parent is the only job where you're ready to retire before you get any good at it. But if you're looking to improve, "Better Homes and Gardens" has a list of five common parenting mistakes to avoid.
#1.) Losing your temper. This is a mistake that leads to all kinds of other mistakes. Because when you get TOO angry, you say and do things you regret later. And the only thing your kids REALLY learn is to be afraid of you.
#2.) Not enforcing your own rules. Set limits for your kids, and then stick to them. Nothing spoils a kid faster than knowing that they can talk you out of a decision you've already made. And then you're reinforcing the behaviors you want to prevent.
#3.) Using scare tactics. Never threaten your kids with outcomes that would never actually happen. Don't get them to obey you by bringing up the Boogeyman, or saying you're going to leave them behind.
#4.) Not getting all the facts. This can go both ways. Sometimes people blame their children without knowing the whole story. And sometimes they DEFEND their children without knowing the whole story.
--Getting blamed for something they didn't do will make your children think you're unfair. And if you defend them when they're wrong, it's harder to discipline them later.
#5.) Saying things kids shouldn't hear. This could be swearing, or insults, or gossip. If you slip up here, you better believe you'll hear it back from your kids before long. And you'll have no authority to correct it, because they learned it from you.